Why did we join the school we did?
Why did we join the college we did?
Why did we choose the subjects and majors we did?
Why did we choose the life partner we did?
Why did we choose the job we are in?
Why did we choose to have children?
All these Why’s are not to ask whether we chose right or wrong. There is no right or wrong. But the question is to know whether we thought about these things at all. Much of our lives are based on herd instinct. We do things because everyone else does them.
Surprisingly, in the only thing that truly matters in life, aka self-realization, the herd instinct doesn’t work, because there is no herd.