A few sample expectations we have from others:
Perfection from spouse; quick and effusive approbation from employer; concurrence with our views; trusting us unconditionally; be non-judgemental towards us; respect us.
A few sample duties we typically (must) perform:
Daily chores at home; doing our jobs well; parenting; teaching; donating to society; working hard (office and otherwise) not wasting a single moment; progressing mindfully on the spiritual path.
Here below, on a scale of 0 to 100, with 100 being the best:
What an ideal world looks like according to us:
Have expectations worth 100
Do our duties worth 0
What the wise tell us:
Have expectations worth 0
Do our duties worth 100
Where would we rank ourselves on this scale? Where would we want to be?